Marriage and child support

Simply put, the purpose of child support is to replace marriage. Discussing how it should be implemented is discussing how to replace marriage. Some might argue that this is a good thing, either as a rare exception (say for a husband who abandons his family) or as a rule (as practiced in the western world). But this doesn’t change the fact that child support is working exactly as designed, and exactly as should be expected. Child support crowds out marriage, and even in cases where weddings still technically occur the option for the wife to unilaterally convert the family from a marriage based family to a child support based family always exists. — Asking the wrong question

A lot of the material at the quoted site seems mistaken, at least in emphasis, but there are some acute observations. Is it really all that acute to point out that we get more of what our government subsidizes and less of what our judges penalize? Yes. It should be obvious, but in 2013 it’s profound, and disturbing.


5 Replies to “Marriage and child support”

  1. It doesn’t replace marriage– it enforces the obligation to the children, even while the obligations between spouses goes unenforced.

    Also, getting very tired of the claim that women have the magical ability to always win children and support in divorce. It’s false, and harmful to those women who tried to respect the claim of fathers. (especially since they tend to get screwed) It’s as pathetic as the feminist professional victims they mimic, but even less becoming because men are supposed to be strong.

    That he thinks a husband abandoning the family is a “rare exception” says tons. I know far too many men who brag about paying double-digit child support. (I know a few guys whose exwives are predators, too, I just don’t try to act like it’s normal.)

  2. Some related ideas are taken up in Helen Smith’s Men on Strike: Why Men Are Boycotting Marriage, Fatherhood, and the American Dream – and Why It Matters.

    1. Been listening to her on various shows, and it’s all over Ricochet.

      While I think there’s some truth, over-selling it will just make a blow-back exactly like this one for crazy-feminists, and it’ll be worse.

    2. Better tactics: promote coming down like a ton of bricks on the folks who do abuses, like the obscenity of a rape-victim being forced to pay his rapist, or the woman who was “awarded” custody when she didn’t want it, because the father was a much better parent.

      1. Other things: promote in-kind child support, where they buy and deliver clothing, food, pay the rent directly, etc; avoids abuses, like one friend I know whose ex-wife spends the support, and he buys the kids what they need when they visit him on weekends.

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